I Suck At Dating

i suck at dating, which is good considering i'm married.

i do, however, have a bunch of friends who are single and looking for love... or some loving... or both depending... anyway, it is a little peculiar as to the number of single friends that i know. so, to help all of them out, i figured i'd post something about dating that i came upon today thanks to yahoo.

anyway, according to a post by yahoo, here are the four worst dating offenses made by single women:

1. getting lazy about love. "Many people don't make an effort to date and wonder why they're still single... She [Nancy Slotnick, a dating coach] recommends spending at least 15 hours a week looking for love like you would look for a new job. She recommends networking by going to events, online dating, and do whatever it might take to meet someone special."

2. giving off the wrong dating signals. "Many smart and successful women think they intimidate single men. But Slotnick thinks the opposite is true. 'Men actually like successful single women. They just don't always know that these women are interested in them.' Women should give off the right signals and use body language to show interest. For example, if you're at a bar, stand next to the single man you find attractive and smile at him. At the same time, don't overdo it. Make sure you're smiling and not staring!"

3. listening to words before actions. "Men especially speak with actions before their words. Sure, he said he would call you next week, but did he? He talked about how fun it would be to go away together for the weekend, but did he make plans with you? Pay close attention to how your date acts versus what he says. The language of behavior says it all!"

4. sticking with cyber-communication. "Most of us have heard that countless couples have been formed through online dating. At a wedding, I even heard a couple thank an online dating site in their vows! While I credit the Web for producing countless love matches, technology can often put too many screens up between us. We develop superficial relationships over text, instant messenging, and email. After getting comfortable with someone online, get past the initial stage of dating and lay off the gadgets a bit! Make time to hang out in person to really get to know someone -- not just the persona he presents online or on the phone."

should my readership be shockingly more than two people, i hope the information will help... although i'm relatively certain my friend (hot amy) does not need to worry about the dating information above. after all... hot amy didn't get her moniker by having a nice personality.

I Suck At Meeting Men

i suck at meeting men... which is a good thing because i'm not attracted to men (okay, sure i may have the occasional man-crush but that's beside the point). i have a lot of female friends who are single. so, there will be times where i'll be asked how come its so hard to find a good single guy and all that good stuff. (personally, i think my single female friends have a laundry list of expectations that are too high... not that they should "settle" but i think they rule out a lot of men before even giving them a try).

anyway, after making some tea for karen (which i'll blog about later), i got on the computer and discovered an interesting article from cosmo. (i don't normally read cosmo, there just happened to be a link on yahoo to the article). according to cosmo, one of the best places to meet a guy is: the apple store! yay apple! (it's just another reason to dislike microsoft)

"The draw: Most guys are natural gadget lovers, and with sales of iPods and MacBooks skyrocketing, more men than ever are stopping by Apple boutiques. The vibe at the stores is conducive to man meeting too: You can check your email among cuties, take a free workshop on anything from Photoshop to podcasting (a great opportunity to strike up a conversation), or just survey the, ahem, good-looking merchandise."

naturally, this got me thinking that my original suggestion to my friend (kerry) about going to a geek star trek conference could pay dividends for her.